Is this a problem? Of course it is and the marriage will not survive if that part is not fixed. When I married her, I promised to be monogamous, not celibate. So how long can I last is the real question. I hope for the kids to get out of school, that is another 9 years. Then if she has not made the necessary correction, it will be adios. It may sound cold and callous, but I’m already tired of her righteous indignation that leads her to believe she is doing God’s will by refusing her husband.
Of course I don’t think I have a ‘right’ to it, but I do have a right to be happy. I’ve been trying to be a better husband and father, and I’m not saying there is no room for improvement, but I am a good man and truth be told, the changes are hard because there are no major issues left to tackle.
If there is anyone else out there in a sexless marriage, please feel free to add tips on how to cope with it. I try not to think about it, but the longer it goes, the more time I devote to trying figure out how to fix it. I have tried everything, I’m tired. I’m worn out. I’m now in a holding pattern until the kids graduate.
